It's perfectly perfect to be imperfect
It's also perfectly perfect to be perfect
i accept all my imperfections & perfections
but it's perfectly perfect to have imperfect acceptance
-cheng kar & sook chin-
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Friday, December 4, 2009
Self-Esteem, Self-Compassion & Non-Self
Self-esteem is a popular mental health concept in western psychology & there has been numerous books written on this topic. However, Buddhist psychology seems to emphasize more on self-compassion & non-self. Are these western & eastern concepts compatible? How can self-compassion & self-acceptance enhance our mental health? What does non-self really mean from a Buddhist perspective? How does it contribute to happiness? The presentation will shed light on this interesting cross-cultural mental health topic. Click HERE for dowloading.
This is a useful link on SELF-COMPASSION
- A. Professor Dr. Kristine Neff's website
http://www.self-compassion.org/
You can download many of the journal papers related to self-compassion from:
https://webspace.utexas.edu/neffk/pubs/listofpublications.htm
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Ladakh Dhamma Heroes
This talk was delivered at Brickfields Maha Vihara on 6th September, 2009. It's part of Kuala Lumpur Buddhist Mental Health Association's effort in promoting mental health in the Buddhist community & specially dedicated to the Dhamma heroes of Ladakh expedition.
Sunday, May 17, 2009
The Mindful Brain
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I find this podcast on Daniel Siegel's book, "Mindful Brain" very good. You can find answers/discussions to the following questions in the talk/article:
- What is the neurological basis of Mindfulness?
- How is Mindfulness related to 'secured attachment' in parenting?
- What's the difference between 'Mind' & 'Brain'
- What are the 9 benefits of activating the Mindfulness/Resonance Circuit?
- How is Mindfulness related to intra and inter-personal attunement?
Fri, 22 August 2008
#44 Brain Science Podcast: Meditation and the Brain
- What is the neurological basis of Mindfulness?
- How is Mindfulness related to 'secured attachment' in parenting?
- What's the difference between 'Mind' & 'Brain'
- What are the 9 benefits of activating the Mindfulness/Resonance Circuit?
- How is Mindfulness related to intra and inter-personal attunement?
Fri, 22 August 2008
#44 Brain Science Podcast: Meditation and the Brain
Brain Science Podcast Episode 44 is an interview with Daniel Seigel, MD about meditation and the brains. Dr. Seigel is the author of several books including The Mindful Brain: Reflection and Attunement in the Cultivation of Well-Being.
Transcribed article: http://docartemis.com/brain%20science/44-brainscience-Siegel.pdf
Direct download: 44-brainscience-siegel.mp3
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Meditation & Bird's Nest
It's perfectly imperfect to have wandering or negative thoughts in meditation...and this can be a perfect offering to God/Buddha
How To Forgive Yourself?
Forgive for Good, Fred Luskin, Ph.D. lays out 9 steps to forgiving for you!
4. Get the right perspective on what is happening. Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you two minutes - or ten years -ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those hurt feelings.
5. At the moment you feel upset practice a simple stress management technique to soothe your body’s flight or fight response.
6. Give up expecting things from other people, or your life, that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the “unenforceable rules” you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, peace and prosperity and work hard to get them.
7. Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you. Instead of mentally replaying your hurt seek out new ways to get what you want.
8. Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby giving the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.
9. Amend your grievance story to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.
From Refusing to Forgive: 9 Steps to Break Free
by Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.
1. Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not OK. Then, tell a trusted couple of people about your experience.
2. Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else.
3. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person that hurt you, or condoning of their action. What you are after is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined as the “peace and understanding that come from blaming that which has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story.”
4. Get the right perspective on what is happening. Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you two minutes - or ten years -ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those hurt feelings.
5. At the moment you feel upset practice a simple stress management technique to soothe your body’s flight or fight response.
6. Give up expecting things from other people, or your life, that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the “unenforceable rules” you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, peace and prosperity and work hard to get them.
7. Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you. Instead of mentally replaying your hurt seek out new ways to get what you want.
8. Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby giving the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.
9. Amend your grievance story to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.
From Refusing to Forgive: 9 Steps to Break Free
by Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Books by Dr. Chan Kah Yein (PhD.)
Little Steps, Joyful Steps is the memoirs of a beautiful two-year spiritual journey. Chan Kah Yein writes on her personal experience, and the many trials, tribulations and the rewards of learning and striving to become a Dhamma speaker. Written from the heart, she humbly and respectfully hopes that this book would serve as an inspiration to motivate readers to pursue their dreams, no matter how impossible it may seem to be at first. Little Steps, Joyful Steps is a tribute to all her friends who have travelled on this journey with her.
In A Kite in the Wind, Chan Kah Yein talks about how she practises simplicity in her life as a layperson who is caught up with the trivialities and complexities of life. She interprets the ancient and time-tested teachings in her simple way, and at the same time, finds truths in modern literature as well. In this book, she shares tips on how we can incorporate simplicity into our busy lifestyle, and thereby gain more peace and happiness.
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Pawprints On My Heart
by Dr. Chan Kah Yein (PhD.)
A beautiful book written by a good friend of mine...
Pawprints on My Heart is a collection of seven personal stories about kindness to animals. Chan Kah Yein, Ph.D., an avid animal lover, writes on her experience with her pets and the many animals whom she has rescued. She hopes that her stories will inspire others to do whatever they can, within their means, to practise kindness to animals. Every little act of kindness that comes from a sincere heart creates a ripple effect that reaches out far and wide. Opportunities abound for us to practise love and kindness. If we sincerely and whole-heartedly extend our love and kindness across the boundaries to those with fur, feather and scales, we are practising non-discriminatory and boundless love. When we no longer discriminate between ourselves and animals, and we shower kindness equally on all beings, we bring compassion to a purer and more magnanimous level. With a deep empathy for all animals big and small, Chan Kah Yein shows how we can make our lives richer and more meaningful as we live together harmoniously as one big family.
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Monday, February 9, 2009
The WORK of Byron Katie
The WORK is a simple yet powerful process of inquiry that teaches you to identify and question thoughts that cause all the suffering in the world. It's a way to understand what's hurting you, and to address your problems with clarity. How to Do The Work?
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Past Life Experience Through Children's Spontaneous Recall...
This is a presentation made at the Closer To Reality Conference on Death & Beyond on 27th December, 2008. It's about children's spontaneous recall of their past life or lives, and the period between two human lives (inter-human life). For powerpoint slides, please click on the above picture, and for full paper presentation, you may click on full. For those who are interested to read journal papers related to the topic, kindly click on more.
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